If I were to have a daughter I would teach her that men who show off their nice car or nice watch are a complete scam and will eventually lead to heart break. Not to mention a complete waste of time. And, ladies, time is an asset that we cannot get back. You have to critically think where these nice items are coming from. Are they from the bank of mom or dad? If so this is a huge red flag that he will not be financially responsible to take care of you, let alone himself.
And, remember, the way you handle money is the way you handle life. Someone who continuously gets stipends of money and luxury items from their parents are dependent on this stream of income. They do not have a sense to work for these items. It’s only logical if you think about it.
For example, when you buy a book versus rent a book. Which one do you care for more? The one you bought because you had to actually work for it. Ok, this may not be the best example because rental books you still have to be careful of unless you want to pay for loss. But you get the picture.
I would also teach her to not allow a man access to her body and womb without marriage. Popular culture today is terrible. It encourages women to be promiscuous, but there is a cost. Everything comes at a cost. With every man you open your legs to your value declines. Because like it or not, you are a human being. And with every man you become emotionally tainted. And our physical bodies are intertwined to our mental health. On the flip side you have to be street smart and not fall for the trappings of life: consumerism in particular. You can’t walk one foot before you meet someone who is habituated to consumption. Your friends, family, coworkers, and everyone has been groomed to consume as much as possible.
As I said in my previous post. It is highly more impressive to restrain than to indulge. this applies to men and sex. It is far more impressive when a man is able to restrain himself by keeping his pants zipped than a guy who invites women over to sleep with him. Why does this matter? Because he can delay instant gratification. This means if you do something he does not agree with he will not lash out because he can control his animalistic urges.
Going back to the man who shows off his “things.” If a man does this run. He is trying to trick you by flashing shiny, useless trinkets so you don’t notice that he has no real skills or motivation to work a job and provide for you, let alone himself.
Another thing is if a man tells you things so you can feel sorry for him, run. Anytime someone tries to make you feel sorry for them, they are trying to manipulate you. A person of worth takes full responsibility for their life. And, especially, if you are American you should not feel sorry for yourself because you live in the most privileged country of the world. Ask yourself why this person would want me to feel sorry for him? More than likely to gain your empathy, especially, if you are young. You are prone to naivety and getting taken advantage of.
If the man tells you he is going to do these great or regular things don’t believe it until you see it. A man will try to manipulate you by promising all these things, but if this happens he might as well not say anything at all because the fact is none of those things exists. Do not give up your time, body, or sex for this seeming future. If you want a prime example, go into a mall or shopping area. You will find salesman bait you with a small sample of soap. But before you get the sample you have to let him test it out on you. So you spend 5 minutes getting your hands lathered and massaged by him and the soap. At the end he then tells you that for only $50 you can get this soap, but he is running a special today and it is only $35. So men do this in relationships to get sex and access to your young 20-something hot body. He promises that he sees a future with you, loves you more than anything else, can’t wait to marry you, feels so lucky to be with you, etc. he says these things to get you to open the legs. RUN. So they bait you in by shiny trinkets, affections of love and when you have invested your time that is when they go in to seal the deal. Now, if you are dumb enough to fall for this trick and do have sex you can always break it off. Better to quit it now than later. Don’t feel like just because you had sex and gave your body away you now have to stay with this person forever. It’s OK. Humans make mistakes, small and big. It doesn’t matter what people will say or think. This is your life. At the end of the day you are alone by yourself. No one else has to deal with the results of your choices and actions.
Keep your value by being extremely intelligent and smart. Do not sleep over with a man either. He will 100% try to get you to open the legs. Date multiple men, simultaneously. Do not get into a monogamous relationship unless there is a proposal. You are single until legally married. Keep your options available. Date multiple men and keep your value by keeping your legs shut. It will protect you mentally and physically. STI’s are an epidemic. Also of note, ever since women were sexually freed, the divorce rates have increased along with depression, suicide, STI’s, etc. Women are now giving up not just sex, but their most precious and valuable asset, THEMSELVES. Keep yourself smart, savvy, single, until the gentleman that shows through actions he is independently financially responsible to care for you, his children, and himself. How to know if he can manage his finances? Look at what he spends his money on. If he drives a nice car and lives in a dump compared to his car then he has no sense of finances. A car’s value depreciates by 90% in less than 5 years. If he spends like this he has very little logic in future purchases and responsibilities. Foolish is what it is.
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